It’s doubtful that there is a person alive who doesn’t have a few regrets.
What we do with regrets matter.
It’s easy to let regret about some things take over our lives, making us unable to get beyond the past. And make no mistake, a regret is in the past. We’ve made a decision, taken an action and we wish we had done it differently… that’s regret.
I don’t know about you, but there are times when I wish there was a delete button for certain memories. Choices I made that I shouldn’t have done, turning right when going left would have been wiser. So many small and large regrets over a lifetime.
We can learn from the past, but there is a price. Pride. Shame. Embarrassment. We need to examine those memories, that regret and take something different from the experience. After all, we cannot change the past, but perhaps we can change how we react to the memories of the past. Not rewriting history, but adjusting how we’ve reacted to our own history.
I’m going to try an experiment. when those memories of regret pop up, instead of quickly pushing them away I’m going to take a closer look, see what and why the event happened and see if I can learn something from it. Even if the only thing I learn is to forgive my younger self for being foolish.
I’ll let you know how it’s going in future posts. It’s an important part of our lives, our memories. Even the painful ones. If it’s possible to learn from them, even at a later date, then examining the whys could make a difference in our futures. It’s worth thinking about.
I have a busy life, as does everyone, and standing over or near the stove for long periods of time… just isn’t possible. For me, the crock pot or slow cooker is a meal saver for our family. I’ve tried lots of cookbooks for the slow cooker. Some are fantastic others are laughable… so I’m rather choosy as to what I tell you about. Any recipe can be made in a healthy manner or in a totally, decadent on the calories and fats manner, so how you cook is really up to you. A few small changes or substitutions may improve a dish’s calorie value without sacrificing taste – because let’s be real if it doesn’t taste good no one is going eat it let alone ask for more.
I strongly believe that the choices we make fuel our lives with positive or negative reactions. No, not some Zen-like level of being – although a Zen lifestyle works for thousands of people. What I’m talking about is getting up every morning and making the choice to do things that are healthy. Things that are good for your body and your soul.
Personally, I live a very stress filled life as a caregiver for a family member. I began to see the effects of that stress in many ways that added even more to my plate as I began to worry about my own health, and how that might affect the person in my care.
I came to a place where I had to make a choice. I could continue living a negative lifestyle, eating the wrong foods, very little exercise, horrible sleep habits and depending on medications to counter my emotional reactions to this situation I deal with daily. OR. I could make some changes and begin taking care of myself.
Loving ourselves seems such a misunderstood concept. It’s not ego. It’s not arrogance. It’s not some higher level thinking that sees yourself as better than anyone else. No, it’s very simply respecting yourself enough to be comfortable loving the person you are totally and being willing to tend to your own needs as importantly as you tend to others.
Self-love also means taking a good look at ourselves and seeing the flaws as well as the good parts, and deciding to make a change. Making a new habit is never, ever easy. Especially when it goes against the way we’ve been living our lives for a long time. Yet, it’s possible. You do it one day at a time – one hour at a time – or one temptation at a time.
Change doesn’t happen overnight. So if you’re looking for a quick fix you will not find it here. I made a choice after taking a good long look at myself, my lifestyle and my circumstances to begin to live life with more care given to myself – in all aspects of life. That choice is reflected in this blog Healthy Living Decisions. I’m no expert, but I am a woman who wants to be around for myself and my family… and that is a choice, a decision that I have made for me.
If this is a choice you are making as well, then perhaps you’ll find some of the posts that I share about my own journey helpful.
Being happy – feeling healthy is a choice that only you can make… and only you can follow through on.
Each of us has their own story to tell. We are uniquely as different as snowflakes, yet a lot more lasting.
Mindful living can be part of a healthy attitude toward life, love, health and everyday experiences.
I’ll touch more on mindful living in future posts. But for now I’d like you to hold onto one thought.
You are unique, there is no one else exactly like you (not even your identical twin)… so learn to live each moment of your special life to the fullest each and every day. Tomorrow comes too soon, make certain you enjoy today before it becomes a memory.
Healthy Living Decisions as a blog has been around for about five years now. It’s never been very active because I used this spot to talk about depression… and being depressed, I rarely posted here. So a vicious cycle of inactivity happened.
So, a fair question from you would be…”Why should I bother to read this blog now when you obviously didn’t care much for the subject matter?”
Yep. That’s an honest and fair question. And I have an equally honest and fair answer.
Because I began caring about myself – and I want to pass that feeling along to you.
My circumstances changed for the better. My environment shifted to allow for better, more emotionally healthy living. And my desire to take better care of myself has grown to the point where I want… even need… to share that journey with whoever wanders onto this blog. In time it will be full of healthy posts about lifestyle, eating, exercise, relaxation, recipes and books that may help you along your own journey to making better healthy living decisions of your own.
For now, this is a starting place. A post to be honest about my past and hopeful for my future.